SOFA silahlane, ngikhetha wena kuphela ngishiya abanye, amagama lawa kwabaningi afika uma sekucelwa umshado.
Usikompilo nesiko kulawula kakhulu wukuthi uma kuthiwa kuhlanganiswa izidalwa kwenziwa kanjani. Kwabaningi ukuhlanganiswa kwabo akugcini nje kubona kodwa kungena ngisho nabadala, izidalwa esezadlula emhlabeni nengcebo yabo.
Yingakho umthetho ungenela ulawule ukuthi yimiphi imigomo nemibandela elawula ukushada kwabantu. Sikhuluma nje kunemithetho emithathu ongashada ngaphansi kwayo, iCivil Marriage Act, Recognition of Customary Marriages Act neCivil Union Act.
Okumele ukwazi ngale mithetho wukuthi kayihlanganiswa. Uma usukhethile umthetho ofuna ukushada ngaphansi kwawo, kumele uqhubeke nawo kuze kube umshado uyaphela ngokudlula koyedwa emhlabeni noma kuhlukaniswe.
Ukhumbule ukuthi yiRecognition of Customary Marriages Act kuphela evumela ukuthatha amakhosikazi eqile kweyodwa, kube semthethweni kuphinde kube yiCivil Union Act kuphela ebhekela odadewethu nabafwethu abathandana nabobulili obufana nobabo. Nayo futhi kayixutshwa nalutho, izimela yodwa nje qekelele.
Akugcini lapho, kube khona umthetho obizwa ngeMatrimonial Property Act yona ewumhlahlandlela wemigomo nemibandela elawula imishado okusuke kushadwe ngayo ngaphansi kwale mithetho ebhalwe ngaphezulu.
Umgomo wokuqala obizwa nge in-community of property, lapha sithi konke okwethu, izikweleti, imali engenayo nezimpahla esizithole singakashadi noma sesishadile wokwethu sobabili ngokulinganayo.
Sibe ne-out- of community of property with accrual, yona ethi esikuthole singakashadi kuyohlala kungokwethu ngokuhlukana kodwa esikuthola sekushadiwe wokwethu sobabili, kungaba yizikweleti noma yinzuzo ukuze sonke siphume silingana ngokwengcebo. Sivale ngeyokugcina eyi-out of community of property without accrual, yona ethi gcina okwakho nami ngigcine okwami, sihlanganiswe wuthando kuphela.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi siyabona ukuthi miningi kanganani imimthetho elawula imishado kodwa manje yonke isabalele. Kumele ubheke lowa mqingo nomunye ukuqiniseka ukuthi konke okwenzayo kusemthethweni.
Umthetho ohlongozwayo: -
Yingakho uhulumeni ehlongoza ukuthi ayiqoqwe le mithetho ube munye. Umthetho ohlongozwayo kuhloswe ngawo ukwenza lokhu okubizwa ngeMarriage Bill. Uhulumeni usameme izinhlaka nomphakathi ukuthi babeke uvo lwabo mayelana nalo mthetho. Kubalulekile ukuthi sibeke owethu umbono njengoba singabantu lo mthetho ozosebenza kubona.
Okuqaphelekayo ngayo wukuthi ihlanganisa yonke imithetho elawula ukushada, ibeke neminyaka umuntu engakwazi ngayo ukuthatha isinqumo sokuthi usengashada, uqhakambise kakhulu ukuvuma ngokuphelele nokungaphikiswa kwabasuke beshada. Ngiyacabanga ukuthi iSishayamthetho besilwa nesihlava sokushadiswa kwezingane zisencane.
Okunye wukwandiswa kwabantu abangakwazi ukushadisa. Besazi ukuthi ngabefundisi noMnyango wezaseKhaya kuphela abashadisayo kodwa manje lo mthetho uthi zonke izimantshi zizonikwa amandla okushadisa.
Lo mthetho ubeka ijoka kulabo abangewona umnsinsi yokuzimilela eNingizimu Afrika ukuthi balethe ubufakazi nokuthi lapho besuka khona abakaze bashade futhi abathathile. Ngiyacabanga ukuthi bavikele ukuthi kungasetshenziswa imishado ukuze abantu bazuze ubuzwe bakuleli lizwe lethu.
Kuphinde kwahlanganiswa nemigomo nemibandela elawula imishado ngaphansi kwalo mthetho. ISishayamthetho sengathi besithi konke okuhlobene nokushada sikufaka ngaphansi komthetho owodwa. Okuyisenzo esihle kodwa sengathi kukhona lapho kushoda khona.
Nakhu lapho kushoda khona:-
Sengathi iSishayamthetho besifanele sibheke ukuthi izinkantolo ziluphatha kanjani udaba lokushada ngokwesintu.
Akukho okushintshile kulokhu esinakho kodwa besidinga ukucaciselwa, ikakhulukazi ngokubaluleka kokuvumelana nokuqedwa kwezigaba zonke uma kushadwa ngokwesintu mande kuthiwe umuntu usephelele ngokushada.
Lo mthetho uthi bonke abafuna isithembu kumele bagunyazwe yinkantolo kuqala ngaphambi kokwandisa umuzi, okuchaza ukuthi uma usuphasile lo mthehto akukho sithembu esiyoba semthethweni uma inkantolo ingavumanga.
Okunye yindlela okoqwashiswa ngayo ukuthi kukhona umthetho ohlongozwayo, abanye bazobonga lesi sikhondlakhondla sephephandaba Isolezwe, eliwela umfula ugcwele layofuna lolu daba ngoba ukube belingekho ngabe abazi ukuthi umthetho ungase ushintshe kanjani.
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